A very well known dictionary defines ‘Compatibility’ as the capability of existing or living together in harmony. How much harmony eventually stays between the two...is a mystery! The word, however, always seemed to give a hell lot of assurance to everybody whether or not in relation, giving them an array of dreams about their probable partners and the ‘apparent’ compatibility with them. In the generation of Barney Stinsons and Lady Gagas where the competition is tough and the options are to die for! One thing becomes quite questionable to me...how much exactly does this word exercise it’s power and how bad is its effect on all of us? Initially I thought compatibility is nothing but a word that pleases the ones in a relationship as outsiders create the myth around them. If you love someone, you don't judge or talk about your compatibility (at-least not aloud, even though it stays in your mind perhaps all the time) with him/her and keep the door open for others to decide and give grades. That’s where this word operates. Whether it’s as virtual as a facebook app or some real Love-O-Meter in a Country Fair, you are just like a china doll in the shop along with your partner and the world is your jury, dictating the horror!!! But who the hell  are they to decide, you may wonder...not knowing that you are part of the very game too judging, criticizing and castigating others just as they do to you. Ranbir Kapoor looks way better with Deepika Padukone than Katrina Kaif, a girlfriend of mine once said, carelessly  drawing and concluding the lines of compatibility that the Kapoor shares with either of the two ladies. But why on earth are we so focused about others? Whether they are celebrity or our cranky neighbors we measure each and every couple on a certain scale and somehow go to the extent of demeaning them. I suppose that’s where this word gets all its energy and an illegal right to make or break two people and what they share. More often than not, break it!

If you search Google, you will get plenty of online Love Meters and Astrology Stuff that checks and deduces you and your partner instantly. Had the word not bothered me about it's sex part, I would have been seriously less worried. But trust me, it is, and no amount of planets and stars would help you out on that. The internet says, there's no fixed definition of sexual compatibility yet its existence is one of the most significant factors in a relationship. If you're in love with someone and you're planning to marry him/her are you supposed to test drive him before you're married or keep the sex-stuff away till you exchange the rings? A very popular women's magazine says, it's better that we go with the former 'cause if there's tension between the two(and not in a good way) then you guys may not be 'made' for each other!!!Maybe in heaven, but certainly not in bed. Thus, goes away the popular belief, at least in Indian society, to keep your body scarce from the spouse before wedding. So what are we supposed to do? Love the person who loves us back or the one who is fabulously great in bed? Is there always a choice involved? And if we can categorize people, that means we fall into some too!